When an Entire Family Abandons a Child

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Looking Beyond the Deadbeat Dad: When an Entire Family Abandons a Child | The Huffington Post

There are few issues in the African American community which receive greater attention, discussion, and debate than the absence of fathers. From a historical perspective, fatherless homes have been identified as a root cause of negative outcomes in African American families at least as far back as the famous Moynihan report in 1965. It has been debated that the absence of fathers causes financial strain in families and increases the likelihood that children will be raised in poverty. The absence of fathers in homes has also been attributed to increased likelihood of delinquency and incarceration for sons, as well as increased promiscuity in daughters. Growing up without a father can negatively impact self-esteem and self-worth in children, and it can also negatively impact future relationships. The absence of a father in the home can have a negative impact on children, which lasts well into adulthood.

The negative impact of fatherless homes in the African American community has been discussed in numerous studies, with many attributing the decrease of fathers in homes to the separation of families during slavery; welfare legislation which provided financial incentives when fathers were not in the home; and the increased incarceration of Black males during the 1980s and 1990s. It is also widely believed that not having a father in the home makes it more likely that young men will not raise their own children. Yet perhaps the biggest contributor to the abandonment of children by their fathers, is the lack of involvement of the paternal family. Indeed, while it is widely known that there are men who abandon their children (for a number of reasons), in many cases this abandonment extends to the entire paternal family. In other words, when children grow up without their fathers, in many cases they also grow up without the involvement of their paternal family (including paternal grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins).

Nothing contributes to the abandonment of children by their fathers more than the lack of involvement from the paternal family. Lack of involvement from the paternal family condones the absence of the father and simultaneously takes away the most powerful motivation for men to become involved with their children. The lack of involvement of the paternal family also takes away supportive resources that can make up for any deficits a father may have in caring for his children. Perhaps most disturbing and confusing when considering the lack of involvement of the paternal family is non-involvement from paternal grandmothers, who are in many cases themselves single mothers that experienced the challenge of raising children without the involvement of their fathers. Most importantly when considering the lack of involvement from the entire paternal family, previous discussions on deadbeat dads become too simplistic. This raises the question, what happens when an entire family abandons a child?

For most people, the family is their earliest and longest lasting system of support. Within the family, children learn behavioral, cultural, societal, and moral norms (this is particularly true in African American families). When children grow up without support and acknowledgment from their paternal family, a culture of abandonment is normalized. Furthermore, children who grow up without the involvement of their paternal families are denied financial support, emotional support, and they are robbed of their sense of belonging and history. Having a lack of history resulting from the abandonment of the paternal family should not be understated. Family researchers (both amateur and professional) trace both maternal and paternal lineage to tell a complete story. A lack of involvement and knowledge of the paternal family leaves too many missing pieces to the puzzle. This not only robs future generations of their history, it damages the sense of self for an untold number of black children (the lack of a sense of self contributes to a number of mental health issues).

In an earlier article on multi-generational dysfunction in foster care, I wrote about the importance of Bowen’s family systems theory in addressing destructive behaviors that span generations. The framework provided with Bowen’s family systems theory is especially relevant to addressing the issue of abandonment by the paternal family within the African American community. It is time to recognize that children are not solely being abandoned by their fathers; they are being abandoned by entire families (our community is suffering as a result). With this recognition, efforts to involve more men in the lives of their children, must also include the extended paternal family in order to be more successful. The paternal grandmother and great-grandmother have an especially important role in achieving this goal. While there are many issues facing the African American community, few are more important than healing families and ending cycles of dysfunction. The cycle of paternal abandonment (both by the father and the extended family) is one African Americans have an obligation to bring to an end.

Dr. Mark Echols has been working with children and families in both educational and social service settings for the last 15 years. He is a Fatherhood advocate and the creator of Black Dads: Changing the narrative on Fathers in the African American community on LinkedIn. You can connect with Dr. Mark Echols on LinkedIn.

Source: Looking Beyond the Deadbeat Dad: When an Entire Family Abandons a Child | The Huffington Post

Parenting with a Disability: Know Your Rights Toolkit

Family Court Insanity

Introducing ParentalRights.org’s New President

— January 19, 2017

Introducing Jim Mason

“Let’s get Jim Mason in here to discuss this.”James Mason In the eight years I’ve served at ParentalRights.org, I don’t know how many times a discussion on strategy or legal language included Mike Farris saying those words. In a meeting of the ParentalRights.org board on January 9, it’s as though Mike made the suggestion one more time.

In response, the board elected Jim Mason to succeed Farris as the president of ParentalRights.org.

Mason, father of 7 and a 15-year member of the legal staff at the Homeschool Legal Defense Association that Farris founded in 1983, was named HSLDA’s vice president of litigation in 2016. He has experience in defending parental rights around the country, including before the Supreme Court.

Significantly, Mason was in discussions with Mike Farris on ParentalRights.org from its founding and even before. “I was there when the organization was a ‘notes on a napkin’ idea with Mike Farris and (PRO board member) Mike Smith,” Mason asserts. “We worked out the initial amendment language together.”

Mason has been an officer of the organization since its inception, serving as the secretary of the ParentalRights.org board prior to his election as president.

So though his name may not be familiar to you now, he is no newcomer to ParentalRights.org or to our mission.

“I think we have a lot of exciting opportunities before us this year,”Mason recently told the staff. “We need to be ready to take advantage of them. But the opportunities are very exciting.”

Your ParentalRights.org staff looks forward to working with Jim Mason in the months and years to come to defend parental rights. Thank you for continuing to stand with us through this transition!

Sincerely,

Michael Ramey
Director of Communications & Research

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Corrupt Judges of America

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enough-2017Our family courts are not constitutional courts, they run under the “Domestic Relations Exception” by each state’s individual laws. However, The Law Of Supremacy says no state make make laws that take away U.S. Constitutional rights and all judges are required to swear and oath to the constitution. Unfortunately, due to financial incentives created by the federal government all 50 states are violating Fundamental Constitutional Rights constantly for their own convenience and profit. This video and series explains all the illegal activities of the U.S. family courts, which are much closer to racketeering organizations, or mafias, then they are to real courts of law. Protect yourself and view this entire series. Save your children, your assets and yourself from being raped by this unlawful scheme run by judges and lawyers.

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Judge James K. Eby, Oswego County Family Court, Oswego, NY

Administrator’s Note: This is the third of a three-part series we call the “Turkey Trology.” With all our uncompensated work exposing court corruption over the years, we have neither the resources nor the time to make this publication viral. We leave that to you, our fellow victims, tortured as you must be during the holidays. So kindly make good therapy of your time by sending this out to the world.

Send it to fellow victims so they don’t feel “crazy” for lodging legitimate complaints to these useless state judicial commissions. E-mail a copy to your representative in Congress or state legislature, an oversight committee, good government group, your lawyer, media, even your parent “adversary” on this “thankless” holiday season. Maybe you’ll be very happy you did.

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Winning through Strength

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Winning through Strength

National Parents Organization – Newsletter December 28, 2016

All over the country, we are winning battle after battle. Just look at our impressive accomplishments.

By: Ned Holstein, MD, MS, Chair of the Board, National Parents Organization

Please, if you can, make your gift today so we can continue to fight from a position of strength!  You can make your gift online using PayPal or a credit card by going here, or you can send a check made out to National Parents Organization to:

National Parents Organization
716 Beacon Street #590548
Newton Centre, MA 02459

As proud parents, we are not begging for relief, we are not asking to be understood. We are not apologizing for making demands.

Our right to be full-fledged, equal parents of our children are given by God, given by nature, given by our predominantly Judeo-Christian heritage, and given by our Constitution. We will not bow in servitude.

We will not ask for someone to do us a favor. We will not beg that they tolerate us.

These are not “fathers’ rights.” They are also mothers’ rights, children’s rights and universal human rights.

We demand the right to help raise our children because we love them, they love us, and they need us in their lives and in their hearts.

Yet, our movement is opposed by powerful special interests that think they are more important than God, nature, our heritage, our Constitution and our loving bonds with our children.

The special interests are the bar associations, the leadership (not the rank and file) of a few women’s groups, misguided ideologues at both extreme ends of the political spectrum, and some feminist groups who have left equality behind in pursuit of supremacy.

So we need your help to deal from a position of strength. Please give as generously as you can, today, before you do anything else! Just click here, or send a check to the address given above.

Strength is not being bellicose. Strength is not name-calling. Strength is not anger.

Please give as generously as you can, today, before you do anything else!  Just click here, or send a check to the address given above/be;ow.

Trust Women? Hahahahahaha

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real-women-support-fathers-rights-2017#TrustWome?  Hahahahahaha – moms4dads

There’s a new campaign in town… First, we had to Listen and Believe. Now, we are told we have to #TrustWomen  Why? Because they’re women. And… because it’s 2016. Trust me, it’s still 2016, it’s true, I said it and I’m a woman, therefore it’s true.

Wait, I thought being sexist was wrong and I thought feminism is about equality, then why trust only women, why not everybody? I guess the next campaign will be #TrustMigrants, why not, right? What could possibly go wrong?

“It’s now or never for reproductive rights”

(Women’s reproductive rights, obviously, because feminism is about equality…)

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Letter to Judges Reviewing Child Support Guidelines

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Some say this federally mandated review process is a sham and that there is only motivation to raise child support. It has been said that kickbacks from the federal government ($140 million per year in Mass.) based on INCREASES in child support fund not only the court system, but actually go into judges retirement funds.

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If this is true there is a HUGE conflict of interest built into this system which may be criminal on more than one level.  Payments between branches of government are unconstitutional in the first place.

Some say we should protest, not participate in this process. I try to give everyone ONE chance to make things right before I assume the worst. This is also necessary to learn about and confirm who the enemies of justice are in this system.  I do not believe people have evil intentions. I do believe evil results are generated by the current child support system in Massachusetts, and probably in many states. Here is the analysis I presents to these judges on September 12th 2005 and the letter I sent the next day by email to add additional thoughts and points.

Dear Judge DiGangi and Carey,
 
I think we all appreciated your patience and time yesterday for the federally required review of CS standards. I have attached and pasted below a corrected and improved version of the handout I gave you.  The mother’s taxable equivalent income was not shown as high enough due to an error in the calculation formula.
 
The reasons to reduce the child support guidelines are very clear. We are harming children and destroying the lives of their fathers too with this system.
 
To summarize the best reasons I heard the guidelines are too high because:
1. Massachusetts is the highest in the U.S. as a percentage of income that already takes into account living costs due to higher salaries. Are 49 states wrong and Massachusetts right?
2. Three different benefits accrue to the mother only that are hidden and need to be included in any analysis as follows:
    a) Father pays all taxes (after tax dollars are worth 50% more than pre-tax dollars)
    b) Disregard of $20,000 creates incentive NOT to work
    c) Mother gets head of household tax status, when father is forced to earn far more money
I do not believe the people who created this guidelines understood this huge hidden impact, or looked at the father’s position at all.
3. We are encouraging mothers not to work and fathers to work under the table.
4. We are not giving children enough time with their fathers for proper development and growth. Working mothers would facilitate more time with dad.
5. We are creating a welfare system, and showing children, how to live off the labor of someone else, not be independent and contribute to society
 
The result of the current system is that the standard of living of a mother is 81% higher than the father when the father earns double, and 41% higher when the father earns triple. This might make some sense when children are of pre-school age and the mother must stay home, but it make no sense at all after that timeframe is up.

It is fatherhood that makes childhood possible.

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The Case for Father Custodyhuman-right-2017

“It is fatherhood that makes childhood possible.” ~ Daniel Amneus

English: Daniel Amneus, author, Ph.D., English...

A judge will try a divorce case in the morning and place the children in the mother’s custody. He will try a criminal case in the afternoon and send a man to prison for robbing a liquor store. Give me one day - STOP Contact Denial -- 2016The chances are three out of four that the criminal he sends to prison grew up in a female headed household just like the one he himself created that morning when he tried the divorce case.[1] He can’t see any connection between the two cases. The time lag prevents him: the kids he placed in the mother’s custody were toddlers and the criminal he sent to prison was in his teens or twenties. Toddlers don’t rob liquor stores.

Besides, most fatherless boys don’t grow up to rob liquor stores and most fatherless girls don’t grow up to breed illegitimate children. Therefore what? Therefore the legal policy of giving custody to mothers is OK? Therefore we can ignore the increased probability that fatherlessness will create delinquency?

8d4a1-dad2bdaysThis is the “safe drunk driver argument.” Most drunk drivers don’t get in accidents. They get home safely and sleep it off. Therefore drunk driving is OK.

It’s not OK.

And exiling fathers from families is not OK. The fact that will not go away is stated by sociologist David Popenoe in his book Life Without Father:

The negative consequences of fatherlessness are all around us. They affect children, women, and men. truckers-report-2017Evidence indicating damage to children has accumulated in near tidal-wave proportions. Fatherless children experience significantly more physical, emotional, and behavioral problems than do children growing up in intact families.

Why do Judges routinely award custody of children to mothers when they try a divorce case?

Child custody law reform is happening all over the country.

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Latest NY Court Ruling Could Open Doors For Father Custody Battles | The Daily Caller

The New York State Court of Appeals ruled Tuesday that a homosexual individual can seek custodial rights for non-biological children in an opinion that goes beyond gay couples.

The decision clears up two separate cases where biological mothers from former same sex couples aimed to keep their children from their ex-partners, the Associated Press reported.

“Where a partner shows by clear and convincing evidence that the parties agreed to conceive a child and to raise the child together, the non-biological, non-adoptive partner has standing to seek visitation and custody under Domestic Relations Law,” reads the opinion written by Judge Sheila Abdus-Salaam.

The previous 25-year old definition of parenthood mandated that a person looking for custody or visitation must have a biological or adoptive connection to the child.

The ruling, the AP notes, will also affect heterosexual, unmarried couples. An ex-partner could petition for visitation or custody of a child produced through artificial insemination if they can prove they and their former partner wanted to raise the child together.

Father’s rights advocates also question if the ruling opens the doors for biological fathers of heterosexual couples in divorce cases, where joint custody is an issue.

“The American Law Institute about a dozen years ago did a family law project and it went around and around about what kind of rights about even what kind of parenting should be given to non-biological people who acted in the position of a parent,” one DC legal expert who specializes in family law told The Daily Caller.

“And they came up with some mushy stuff. But a lot has changed in those dozen years. Obviously, including the Supreme Court case legalizing gay marriage, and once the Supremes did that, it became very difficult for any court to say that there ought to be the old-fashioned or traditional rules that adoption or custody or whatever to a non-biological parent can be prohibited as being against the best interests of the child.”

“The most obvious example of that, you say that two gay people can get married. Why is one of them preferred over the other in the event that they split up and the court has to make the custody decision? So you get lots of decisions that flow from The same-sex marriage decision. The thing that’s been kind of interesting to me is some of the activists, in the growing acceptance of gay parents, are tearing down the bias against biological fathers,” he said. “Take the example, if you have two gay guys. If you are going to give them joint custody why are you not giving joint custody to the heterosexual father who is divorced? So it is kind of an odd thing.”

Mothers tend to get custody of children over fathers 82.5 percent of the time, the census bureau shows.  Pew Charitable Trusts argues that fathers do not actively seek custody of their children as often as mothers, saying that a study in Massachusetts said that dads who actively sought joint custody received it 70 percent of the time, but Cathy Young responds to such conclusions in a 2004 Boston Globe piece that the same study says that this number includes contested and uncontested cases.

Young writes,”The same study showed that mothers who filed for sole custody received it 75 percent of the time (with the rest usually getting joint legal/primary physical custody); the ‘success rate’ for fathers was 44 percent. It also mentioned, when explaining why few noncustodial mothers pay child support, that ‘women who lose custody often do so because of mental, physical, or emotional handicaps.’ Fathers may need to be far more fit to prevail.”

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‘They came up with some mushy stuff’

Source: Latest NY Court Ruling Could Open Doors For Father Custody Battles | The Daily Caller

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A Disabled Dad’s Strengthening Words

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The Struggles and Hopes of a Disabled Dad – All Pro Dad

Ten years ago I was white-knuckling the handles of a raft in the rapids of Costa Rica while my wife and I were on our honeymoon.

Ten years later on our anniversary, a kind stranger offered his help to my wife who was trying her best to lift my disabled body into an inner tube at a hotel pool. I can only imagine what was going through that gentleman’s mind when he saw me struggling to float down a lazy river.

God’s Beautiful Design

Ten years ago I never would have dreamed that I would have a physical disability. But God knew the beautiful design he had for me and for the spread of his gospel would involve taking away the strength of my hands.

There have been times when I couldn’t lift a cup of water to my lips to take a drink or open the fridge to feed myself. Most mornings my preschool-aged daughters help me button my shirt. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been able to pick up any one of my three babies. Sometimes I can’t even shake hands.