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HOW TO TREAT HIM AS A HUMAN BEING
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Don’t be passive aggressive. Everybody hates that.
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Don’t be a drama queen. Everybody hates that too.
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Don’t nag him. Do you see a pattern?
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Don’t play the victim card all the time. Take responsibility for your actions.
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Have his back. He trusts you.
If you stab him in the back, he won’t see it coming. This will break him.
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Show him how much you value him. Bake him a cake. Even something small and practical goes a long way (like a sandwich).
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Don’t be jealous and possessive. You don’t own him.
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Don’t spy on him. His communication devices are private, just like your own.
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Don’t send mixed signals. Yes means yes, no means no. How hard can it be?
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Don’t keep talking about things he doesn’t care about. Did you know that he doesn’t care about curtains?
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Be a teammate, not a burden. You need to bring value to the relationship.
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Don’t waste money. Stop buying shoes already!
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If something is bothering you, say it. Be direct. He’s no clairvoyant. And neither are you, by the way.
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Don’t ask him unanswerable questions, such as “Do I look fat in this?” You know there is no right answer.
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If you made a mistake, come clean right away and start working on fixing the damage you’ve done. Unless it’s tech-related, then stay as far away from it as possible.
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Let him be. He needs time for himself, time with his friends, time to stay quiet, time away from you.
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If you’re a stay at home mom, like I am, take good care of him, yourself and your children. That’s your job.
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Remember he’s not invulnerable. Men can run out of juice too. Be prepared to lead, provide guidance, protection, or support, as necessary.
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Remember his value is not directly proportional to how useful he is to you. He is his own person.
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Don’t make plans on his behalf, or without his input. There is no I in team.