Infant bonding is not just a maternal issue

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The Birthright – Relating To Men

A very good friend and well-known advocate of the men’s rights movement recently dropped a video clip into my inbox and simply said, “watch this”. I knew it was important and he had my full attention.

It took only a minute for me to be tuned out from the world and into ‘Laugh After Pokes’, a rap song about Paternity Fraud. Not something you see or hear every day and so I was intrigued. It was immediately apparent that this was one man’s way of sharing his story in a frame that was tragic and yet a clearly cathartic outlet for sharing his creative love with his personal crusade to find out the paternal identity of a child. A child he was told could be his.

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I spoke with Dan Scott (Rapper turned Vlogger) to find out the full story and what circumstances led him to being denied confirmation if he was the paternal father of a child that he had not yet met. A baby girl, he believes to be born on or around 01/12/15.

This is not like any other story I have heard.

There can be little denial that if you have sex, there is a likelihood of conception. It’s a known risk that we mitigate with various forms of contraception and usually a level of trust that at least one of you is doing the right thing. Trust is usually where it goes pear shaped.

When we enter into a relationship and spend time with someone intimately we naturally develop a trust, often irrespective of our past history with others. This is the way it should be. We learn trust very early in our development (between 0-2 years) and at the same time we are developing bonds and attachments, all driven by Oxytocin, the hormone of love secreted to the brain. As nature would have it, we generate this same hormone after sex. We are after all, sexual beings.

When Dan entered into his relationship he naturally developed a level of trust. It wasn’t an ideal relationship, but there was love and attachment.

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On an occasion after having sex his girlfriend made a comment that threw him completely – “did you release your little soldiers? “ and Dan was instantly suspicious. “Was she trying to conceive?” But there was another nagging question spinning in his head. Was she already pregnant and trying to deflect responsibility to him for being the father. At the time, he wasn’t sure why he questioned that, Sometimes it’s hard to know how gut instinct drives our thoughts, but it’s alarms are always strong.I AM A DADDY - 2016

 

How Sweden’s “daddy quota” parental leave helps with equal parenting – Quartz

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Sweden really wants dads to take paternity leave.

Sweden became the first country in the world to replace maternity leave with parental leave in 1974, with time off that either parent could take. While the onus was no longer on women to take time off work for childcare, the new law didn’t dramatically change gender roles with childcare. Mothers were still taking the vast majority of leave and the few men who did take it were nicknamed “velvet dads.”

To change this, the government introduced the so-called “daddy quota” in 1995. Fathers were given 30 days leave, which only they could use, to encourage them to stay at home. Failure to take the leave resulted in the loss of that month’s paid leave.

The introduction of the quota had a massive impact; the proportion of fathers taking any leave increased from 44% to 77% after it was initially introduced.
The law had the biggest impact on fathers on lower incomes and those born abroad, who increased their use of parental leave 8d4a1-dad2bdaysthe most under the new take-it-or-leave-it formulation.
The daddy quota was extended to 60 days in 2002, which also slightly increased the number of fathers taking leave, but had a less dramatic impact than the 1995 law. And on Jan. 1, the quota was extended to 90 days.The quota seems to have helped with equal parenting in Sweden; it retained more women in the workforce and now nine in 10 Swedish fathers take leave. But can it make much of a difference in other countries where there’s a greater disparity in parental leave use between women and men?

cropped-afla-causes-2-2015Pia Schober, a researcher who looks at gender differences in education, employment and household work at the German Institute for Economic Research, tells Quartz “the take-it-or-leave-it system is important to increasing the number of paternity leave, but only to an extent.”

She explains that since men aren’t likely to take leave if it’s badly paid, the daddy quota is less of an incentive in country’s where the mandatory pay during parental leave is low. Since Sweden has left paid at 80% of someone’s salary, initiatives like the daddy quota work quite well.

Source: How Sweden’s “daddy quota” parental leave helps with equal parenting – Quartz

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Leon Koziol Teams up to Elevate Fathers’ Rights in New York City.

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Dr. Koziol Back in Manhattan Advocating For Court Reform and Family Rights

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The family law system in America is ripping lives apart. The current for-profit divorce industry makes billions of dollars a year by making sure that strife and custody battles€ are the norm when a family hits hard times.

The mantra of the “best interest of the child”,  rings hollow when the stories and accounts of the victims of this injustice are heard. In essence…The breakdown of the family…especially the absence of fathers – is not just

A problem…

IT’S THE MOST SIGNIFICANT PROBLEM FACING OUR COUNTRY TODAY!56248-parental-rights