Don’t be a drama queen. Everybody hates that too.
Don’t nag him. Do you see a pattern?
Don’t play the victim card all the time. Take responsibility for your actions.
Have his back. He trusts you.
If you stab him in the back, he won’t see it coming. This will break him.
Show him how much you value him. Bake him a cake. Even something small and practical goes a long way (like a sandwich).
Don’t be jealous and possessive. You don’t own him.
Don’t spy on him. His communication devices are private, just like your own.
Don’t send mixed signals. Yes means yes, no means no. How hard can it be?
Don’t keep talking about things he doesn’t care about. Did you know that he doesn’t care about curtains?
Be a teammate, not a burden. You need to bring value to the relationship.
Don’t waste money. Stop buying shoes already!
If something is bothering you, say it. Be direct. He’s no clairvoyant. And neither are you, by the way.
Don’t ask him unanswerable questions, such as “Do I look fat in this?” You know there is no right answer.
If you made a mistake, come clean right away and start working on fixing the damage you’ve done. Unless it’s tech-related, then stay as far away from it as possible.
Let him be. He needs time for himself, time with his friends, time to stay quiet, time away from you.
If you’re a stay at home mom, like I am, take good care of him, yourself and your children. That’s your job.
Remember he’s not invulnerable. Men can run out of juice too. Be prepared to lead, provide guidance, protection, or support, as necessary.
Remember his value is not directly proportional to how useful he is to you. He is his own person.
Don’t make plans on his behalf, or without his input. There is no I in team.
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I will never understand the laws in place that automatically assumes the mother is the best option for a child of unwed parents and gives the father no rights. If the father is a loving, involved father throughout the pregnancy then why are they automatically a lesser parent? Just because a mother carries the child does not make her a better parent or imply a superior bond. I think every situation has to be looked at on a case by case basis and not just on assumptions, as it should be what is in the best interest of the child. Seldom does the government, laws or family courts actually care what is in the best interest of the child, which is the biggest problem unwed fathers face.
Let us explore an example of unwed parents below and why automatically giving a mother custody may not be in the child’s best interest.
Behavior/Action/Ability Mother Father
1. Lost job due to being dishonest. YES NO
2. Threatened to kill child to keep other parent from seeing child. YES NO
3. Uses child to control other parent. YES NO
4. Began alienating child from other involved, loving parent from birth to hurt them. YES NO
5. Views child as property they own. YES NO
6. Noticed child was having serious medical issue. NO YES
7. Refused to give child prescribed medication. YES NO
8. Uses lies in family court to further parental alienation against other parent. YES NO
9. Does not allow other loving parent to see child but wants their money. YES NO
10. Allows child to be touched inappropriately while in their care. YES NO
11. Has college education but is unemployed. YES NO
12. Lives off government programs and handouts. YES NO
13. Files false IRS tax returns to get more money from the government. YES NO
14. Can provide private health insurance for child. NO YES
15. Has shown they actually love the child and want what is best for them. NO YES
16. Can raise a hard working child with good morals, honesty, integrity, etc. NO YES
The assumption that mothers are better parents than fathers is putting many children into dangerous situations. 50/50 shared custody should be the goal unless a parent (mother or father) is proven to be unfit. The world of parenting is changing with many fathers taking a more active role in the raising of their children then ever before but society has been slow to catch up. Unfortunately, there are many bad parents of both genders that do not care about their children. To just give one parent custody while stripping the other parent’s rights to their child is unconstitutional. Fathers have the right to raise their children and our children have the right to both loving, fit parents!!
The government is the #1 reason for fatherless children!!
*The above chart is only to represent why there should not be laws that allow an assumption that one parent automatically get custody without due process and does not represent any actual people. Any likeness or similarities to any actual people is only coincidental.
A Child’s Fears
I think my dad is Dracula.
I know that sounds insane,
But listen for a moment and
Allow me to explain.
We don’t live in a castle,
And we never sleep in caves.
But, still, there’s something weird
About the way my dad behaves.
I never see him go out
In the daytime when it’s light.
He sleeps all day till evening,
Then he leaves the house at night.
He comes home in the morning
Saying, “Man, I’m really dead!”
He kisses us
By sunrise he’s in bed.
My mom heard my suspicion
And she said, “You’re not too swift.
Your father’s not a vampire.
He just works the graveyard shift.”